Ask the Astrologer: Mar 28-Apr 3 — The best laid plans…

By Christopher Renstrom

Two years ago a friend came to me with an amazing creative opportunity. He wanted to collaborate on a writing project that had enormous potential for success. I felt like my life purpose had found me, so I jumped on board. Long story short is I did all the creative work for a year and a half, while my ‘friend” did nothing but chastise and harass me about it, trying to “keep my in my place.” In the end he told me to “move on and let him have this.” He attempted to advance himself by plagiarizing me and I wouldn’t let that happen. He was really horrible and then even more so when I stood up for myself. Recently he randomly apologized out of the blue. I responded that we could finish this project together, but that our friendship is forever damaged. I haven’t heard back. What do you think? Me: July 18, 1978; Him: April 19, 1976.

I think this fellow came to you with an idea. You saw its potential and began working your creative magic until that idea became yours rather than his and that’s when things broke down. It’s not unlike a kid showing off his new guitar to a friend who, taking it in hand, immediately begins playing brilliant riffs and jamming away like the next Jimi Hendrix. It doesn’t matter if the friend is the more accomplished musician; it’s still the kid’s guitar.

Sun on Sun squares often appear in the horoscopes of people who are rivals in the best sense in that they push each other to try harder than they would on their own. But Jupiter next to the Sun in your horoscope shows that you are infinitely more creative while Saturn square the Sun in his horoscope indicates that he’s the director type. Again this has all the makings of a successful collaboration had he been able to give direction and let you do your thing, but it looks like his Mars in Cancer got in the way. Mars has a rough time in Cancer because it takes competition so personally. He would have felt like he needed to do something to show that he was creative too (even if he didn’t have the slightest idea of what that would be) and that if he couldn’t be creative then he would pick up his toys and go home. It’s just as well as you were never really equal partners to begin with. The writing project was always his intellectual property and not yours.

The reason you haven’t heard back from him is that he was apologizing to you as a friend—not as a writing partner. I don’t think you fully understand that he blames the project for having ruined your friendship so your response sent the message that the project matters to you more than he does. And that’s OK because it’s probably true. Meanwhile you don’t need him to be creative. You clearly have talent, which means you have everything you need to make your own way. And you need to make your own way so that you aren’t beholden to—or dependent on—anyone else but yourself.

This article was originally published on March 27, 2010.