Ask the Astrologer: Apr 4-10 — Make peace and move on
Can you give me some insight into my love life? My husband and I have been together for 10 years. In the past several years the relationship between us has changed significantly and we are now separated and living apart. I am at a point in the relationship where I am not sure that things between us can be fixed. However I am feeling a tremendous amount of guilt about this decision. Do you think a reconciliation is in the future or should we both move on? My birthday is 6-23-74 and his birthday is 5-22-72.
Divorce is never easy—especially for a Cancer. Born under the zodiac sign of hearth and home it would have been very painful for you to separate and live apart. The fact that you made this decision—and stuck by it—tells me that you’re serious about getting a divorce so you need to make peace with your decision and move on.
On October 16th, 2009 Mars, the planet of willpower and drive, entered the zodiac sign of Leo. This is important for two reasons. First—your Ruling Planet is the Moon and it’s in Leo and secondly—you were born with Mars in Leo in your horoscope. This is called a Mars return in Astrology and it symbolizes a time when you’re feeling very passionate about what you want—and don’t want—in your life. These passions may involve people, but they could also target goals you set for yourself or push you to live the life you’ve always wanted to live. A Mars return (especially when it involves the Moon) is a time when you want what you want and you’re going to go for it. However Mars turned retrograde on December 20, 2009. “Retrograde” refers to a backwards motion and this is when you would have experienced a sudden loss of nerve. Mars is also the planet of men, so your husband may have been going through a rough patch over the winter where he needed you and you felt like you just couldn’t leave him hanging. This would have highlighted the split between the things you do because you want to do them the things you do because you feel you have to do them.
Mars emerged from its retrograde on March 10, 2010 and this is when you reconnected to that resolve and drive that was MIA over the winter. I see you moving ahead with your divorce and it should be finalized around the time that Mars leaves Leo on June 6, 2010. But you need to be in your own corner. Yes, it would be easier to stay put; to make concessions and to serve the marriage rather than yourself. But I think you know by now that that’s untenable and I suspect that your husband knows it too. Passion is a big deal when you have your Ruling Planet in a fire sign. Moreover Leo is the sign of the heart. When you have your Ruling Planet in Leo then you have to be true to your heart and you have to be true to yourself. It’s the only way to live.