What is the best way to get along with your young adult children? My birthday is 3-21-45 and my daughter’s is 11-26-80.
You and your daughter should get on like a house on fire, given that you’re an Aries and she’s a Sagittarius. You both have a positive outlook on life. You both value independence, spirit and pluck. And you both believe that willpower and faith are the motivating forces that drive people to fulfill their potential. Indeed helping others to fan their inner sparks of faith into flames of self-confidence is what you and she are all about. Aries, Leo and Sagittarius are the fire signs of the zodiac, and fire signs believe that each of us is born with a unique purpose and that is to be the best that you can be. Rise to the highest expression of yourself and others will do the same—thereby showcasing the finest that humanity has to offer.
But the fact that your daughter just turned 29 and that you still refer to her as a “young adult child” is a little disconcerting. Is she really that immature?
If she really is an overgrown child (and there are plenty of them running around these days) then you need to cut the apron strings. It would be a good idea to start mapping out a transition process now so that she’s living on her own and supporting herself financially by June. The upcoming Jupiter/Uranus conjunction in Aries on June 8, 2010 shows that you both see eye-to-eye on this and that by working together your efforts will be successful.
If, however, you are refusing to acknowledge that she’s an adult in her own right then that would spell trouble because you are inadvertently pushing a major red button on the fire sign console. Not recognizing your daughter for who she is a major no-no and would make any Sagittarian rear up in alarm.
Now there can be a provocative—and even a competitive—dynamic in play between mothers and daughters born under fire signs and it stems from the fact that you both have big personalities and expect to get your way. Had you been born under different elements (like water or earth) then you would look for ways to accommodate each other, but Aries and Sagittarius can start engaging in flame wars when they both believe they’re in the right and they’ll turn up the heat if they feel like they’re not being listened to. You can change this by giving your daughter what she wants—which is probably acceptance for who she is. You may also want to ask yourself why you would withhold that. Chances are that your motives aren’t as straightforward as you believe. You were born under Mars, and Mars, being a power planet, will always fight to gain the upper hand. Once you understand that this is not the way to go with a Sagittarian (like the horse they’ll bolt in the opposite direction), then you’ll learn to treat your daughter with more respect. Respect her and she’ll respect you. With fire signs it’s as simple as that.