Regulars and Shorts

Coach Jeannette: The Top Five Vibe Kickers

By Jeannette Maw

And their antidotes.

Are you engaging any of these manifesting handicaps? These are the most common ways we create misalignment to what we want:

1. We judge. Others, ourselves, situations. Judgment is resistance, and it doesn’t (usually) feel good. There are times when there’s relief in judging, but it’s not usually long-lasting. This is a good habit to release in order to let your dreams come to fruition.

The antidote is to allow allow allow. (Even if you have to begin by allowing yourself to judge!)

2. We worry. We humans are gifted storytellers, and when we imagine a negative future, that vibration keeps us from manifesting what we want most. If you’ve got a habit of telling the negative story, it’s time to turn over a new leaf.

Hang out with Pollyanna. She’s the best in the business for seeing things in a positive light, and she will rub off on you.

3. We care too much what others think. If our own inner guidance isn’t running the show, we’re bound to run into a kink or two. Working to gain the approval of others is a surefire way to sabotage your own desires and passions.

Practice caring less what others think and honor more of what your true self wants. It’s a self-reinforcing practice, so just getting started ensures your success. Amy Pearson’s free ecourse for Approval Addicts can lead the way.

4. We don’t know when to drop it. One of my favorite tips from Abraham lately is to know when to get specific and when to “go general.” Many of us focus on what feels bad, when in actuality that’s a perfect time to stop focusing so specifically.

When you’re feeling less than fab, entertain more general thoughts like “I’ve been through worse than this;” “It can’t last forever;” etc. Get out the magnifying glass when you’re in a good mood only.

5. We take it too seriously. Bronnie Ware, a nurse who worked in palliative care, recorded dying people’s ephiphanies. She found these common themes:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Antidote: Live your life with a strong, buoyant heart! 

This article was originally published on March 30, 2012.