Ask the Astrologer Weekly Question: Will I meet someone soon?

By Christopher Renstrom

I recently divorced and my ex husband passed away unexpectedly.  I am ready to date and have tried online, but the whole process is a nightmare and I just do not have the patience.    I would love to meet someone, but I live in a very family friendly town and due to my job, I do not have the luxury to peruse the local hotspots.  Do you see me meeting anyone soon?  December 19, 1965

Yes, I do see you meeting someone soon.  In fact there may even be as many as three someones that you will be dating seriously over the next year and a half.

It sounds like you’ve been through a bit of war-zone (emotionally speaking) these past couple of years with Saturn, the planet of trials and tribulations, squaring your sign and Pluto, the planet of ordeals, winding up its stay in Sagittarius.  These two planets would have kept dragging you back into situations that you were trying to struggle free of.  It’s perfectly natural that you would want to move on and to start living your life as soon as possible, but you’re kind of like a soldier returning from the front.  It’s going to take time to make the transition back to civilian life.

Nobody likes online dating—and that includes the majority of people online.  Nevertheless it does seem to work.  I hear you when you say that you live in a very family friendly town, but you are a single woman looking to be in a relationship and chances are people already know it, so I don’t think you’re going to look out of place at a local hotspot.  Obviously this is about comfort levels and you’re fortunate in that your Ruling Planet is Jupiter.  Children of Jupiter do very well in groups and community activities.  What this says to me is that you could probably meet someone through volunteer work or events that are sponsored by your church or some other kind of social organization.  Clubs, societies, and/or any education course where people get together and share like-minded interests would be terrific for you especially since you were born with your Ruling Planet Jupiter in the social sign of Gemini.  Now I know it will be hard to not focus on the faults and foibles of every guy you meet.  Part of this is because you’re moving out of your normal social circle and part of it is because you’re going to be on the defensive.  Everyone is on the defensive when they’re getting back out there in the dating pool.  But if you can keep in mind that most of the fellows you’re meeting are feeling pretty much the same way, then I think this will help you to relax.  Yes, you’re going to meet some jerks and bores and losers.  Everyone does and it’s all part of the process.  But if you can just commit to getting on out there and giving everyone at least one chance, then I think you’ll start to get back into the groove of things.  It’s going to take time and energy, but by January 2011 you’ll see for yourself that it was all totally worth it.

This article was originally published on August 28, 2010.